Divorce is difficult by itself but one of the hardest aspects is that the story changes based upon who you ask. I’ve generally tried to remain neutral in how I explain my divorce. I don’t like to contend that either of us was the root cause, we both made bad choices and in the end the marriage was over.
The thing is, depending on which side you view it there’s always some degree of spin. Some framing to try and put the one telling the story in the best light. Dealing with depression and the divorce I’ve had to stare a lot of things dead on and find ways to cope and acknowledge the problems I found in myself. It doesn’t make it easier but I’ve tried to state my perspective of it without painting myself in necessarily a positive light.
The hardest thing to admit is that when it’s over, it’s over and what things didn’t work. I’ve had to sit down, jot them down and they are things that I now try to work on a little bit each day. Didn’t save my marriage but hopefully will save me heartache down the road.
